Not gonna lie, one of the most irritating aspects of “co-parenting” with someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder has to be the absolute disrespect suffered by the other parent at basically every juncture. Borderlines are incapable of respecting the other person’s time, so they’re pretty typically late with everything they promise; whether it’s dropping off or picking up. You can always count on them being late and you’re always better off just not scheduling anything on days you know they’re supposed to do some driving.

It’s not like that lack of respect stops at time, either. They’ll make plans that are actively a detriment to your effort to spend time with your child. They always feign ignorance like it’s not blatantly obvious, they’ll lie about motives, and it’s always simply because you were never a consideration to them at any point. Borderline truly is about the closest diagnosis to pure solipsism is as humanly achievable. It’s exactly as emotionally draining as it sounds. Thankfully the stakes for me are far lower because I never married my ex, and never had any intention to. Even with the love bombing I promised myself that I would never marry anyone unless they made me feel safe, and I absolutely upheld that promise to myself. I love that promise to myself, because it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Well, the second best thing, but it absolutely led to the best thing to ever happen to me.

I need to pick back up on my hobbies, honestly. I’ve been sunk into a relatively unhealthy routine of working, coming home, and just not doing anything substantial. I either need to start playing with systems again or learning a new programming language- something, anything. I need to quit trying to content myself with minor distractions.

I have to say, one of the absolutely most annoying things is the total lack of consistency from my ex. My son failed to turn in about 30 or more assignments in school last year, and supposedly my ex said she was going to take screens away from him. I think that punishment wound up lasting about a week to a week and a half at her house, and my son started doing things he should be doing regardless (like cleaning his bedroom) to “earn” screen time back. In other words, she wanted him to stop pestering her and figured it was an easy way out, as always. It’s just so annoying. We’re sticking to the punishment at our house, but it’s leading my son to do bad things like sneak his phone into his bedroom to dick around watching youtube videos. Great job, other parent! Jesus. It’s frustrating when the other person doesn’t give a shit about your kid, and especially doesn’t give a shit about how the stupid shit they do impacts them. Really wish my ex would grow up.